This post maybe a little controversial and uncomfortable to some readers. As social creatures we like to label ourselves as certain types. We like to be part of groups, tribes and social circles. The issue is when we, or others, use these types to defining ourselves and limit our potential.
The focus of this article is looking at two specific personality types which always seem to pop up in conversations.
'Oh I am an Introvert"
'They are they the life and soul of the party, surely they are an extrovert'
If we ignore the fact that most personality testing are flawed, especially Myers-Briggs
What does it really mean when we say Introvert or Extrovert.
The merriam webster dictionary defines them as follows:
I am sure the majority would define me as an extrovert, an outgoing person who like to socialize and talk to others.
However there are times and situations in which I can by shy and find it difficult to talk to others. For example at large social gathering I can become very inward. A recent example of this was at Testbash in Brighton where they organize a social event by the beach. I find these situations very difficult and draining. I put on a brave face but inwardly I just want to run and find a quiet corner and be by myself. The classic signs of an introvert? Then the next day I am on stage in front of 200 plus people giving a talk and feeling wonderful, relaxed and enjoying the moment. Wow now I am classed as an extrovert!
For me the key here is we need to stop limiting ourselves by defining our behavior with a label. Depending on the context you can be an introvert or extrovert, and there is nothing wrong with that. However if you use these labels to the extreme you could limit opportunities, growth and fulfilling your true potential. Throw away the label and use your instinct to drive what you want to achieve and then anything could be possible.
Oh and a message to those who work in HR please stop using personality tests to meet some unreasonable arbitrary 'will they fit' tick box. You may be excluding people just because of how they feel on that day rather than based upon the merits and skills of the individual.
The focus of this article is looking at two specific personality types which always seem to pop up in conversations.
'Oh I am an Introvert"
'They are they the life and soul of the party, surely they are an extrovert'
If we ignore the fact that most personality testing are flawed, especially Myers-Briggs
"Generally, although not completely unscientific, the MBTI gives a ridiculously limited and simplified view of human personality," Nothing personal: The questionable Myers-Briggs test - Bean Burnett - The Guardian - March 2013"Then what we are left with is the human desire to 'fit in' and be part of a group. At the same time by using these labels we can provide excuses for our behavior.
What does it really mean when we say Introvert or Extrovert.
The merriam webster dictionary defines them as follows:
Introvert - a shy person : a quiet person who does not find it easy to talk to other people
http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/introvert
Extrovert - a friendly person who likes being with and talking to other people : an outgoing personFor those people who know me personally, how would you label me?
http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/extrovert
I am sure the majority would define me as an extrovert, an outgoing person who like to socialize and talk to others.
However there are times and situations in which I can by shy and find it difficult to talk to others. For example at large social gathering I can become very inward. A recent example of this was at Testbash in Brighton where they organize a social event by the beach. I find these situations very difficult and draining. I put on a brave face but inwardly I just want to run and find a quiet corner and be by myself. The classic signs of an introvert? Then the next day I am on stage in front of 200 plus people giving a talk and feeling wonderful, relaxed and enjoying the moment. Wow now I am classed as an extrovert!
For me the key here is we need to stop limiting ourselves by defining our behavior with a label. Depending on the context you can be an introvert or extrovert, and there is nothing wrong with that. However if you use these labels to the extreme you could limit opportunities, growth and fulfilling your true potential. Throw away the label and use your instinct to drive what you want to achieve and then anything could be possible.
Oh and a message to those who work in HR please stop using personality tests to meet some unreasonable arbitrary 'will they fit' tick box. You may be excluding people just because of how they feel on that day rather than based upon the merits and skills of the individual.